I’d love to hear your takes on how to compromise with a spouse or SO when your have different values re: big purchases. My fiance and I are talking about the process of combining our finances and aggressive saving, and he brought up that one thing he’d like to purchase is one or more guns. I’m not crazy about guns myself, but I respect that it’s important to him. In our budget we have lines for retirement savings, down payment savings, and vacation savings… should we also have a bucket for guns? I can’t think of anything that I would buy that is comparable. It’s also (maybe) worth noting that I make more than he does, and that gap is only going to grow over time.
How do you handle big purchases of say, $500+, especially when it is only of value to one partner?
This is also a general question of, when combining finances, how much independence do you maintain, and how much do you work as a team towards your goals?