Was in hiatus for a while (was out traveling). On your point above- I really hate budgeting. It causes friction between me and my husband so we just have a maximum number we plan to spend yearly on a certain category.
We can then adjust that category accordingly depending on what gives us most joy - like, travel, or eating out.
At the end of the day, after we have saved money & automatically invested it (we save nearly 50% of our salaries net of taxes), we're free to enjoy whatever we have left. We don't blow whatever we have left though - if there's extra then it goes back to saving!
Takes discipline but that approach works for us better than budgeting