While I’m grateful for the support (and pleasantly surprised that folks could vouch for even the likes of Mr. 1500 and @PoF…although come to think of it, @ChiefMomOfficer has yet to post after her allegedly safe meetup with @PoF today), I’ll ask you please go easy and reserve judgment on my wife. Let me assure you all she’s slumming it far more to stick with me than I am to be with her (a character flaw for which I am perpetually grateful).
We know many couples who met online, but our experiences with online dating were widely divergent. The women I met ran to the sweet and cute end of the spectrum. I suspect her distrust is based all her dates being shorter, older, and more married than their online profiles stated.
@Mrs.Groovy, I like your suggestion to change her mind by involving her in the blog. Impressive change-the-institution-from-within sophistication!
@ApathyEnds, a Skype pre-game sounds like a great suggestion before a meetup to disarm her.
@MrsRetiretoRoots, sounds like your craiglist love story (romance plus frugality?) is just waiting to be either its own thread or a hot 'n heavy novel with your husband in frilly bare-chested shirt glory on the cover.
@Ms99to1percent, I like your style. I’m tempted to invite her to join me a future Fincon if we can bamboozle the grandparents into sitting for us.
@Slow_Dad, thanks for understanding where I’m coming from. I think our wives should go bowling so yours can persuade mine of the wisdom of imaginary friendships (after all, they served us so well in grade school). Maybe if I can buy my wife fries with proceeds somewhere down the line she’ll be more open to eccentric invisible friendships.
@Vicki, as official royalty of FI, I’m honored to have you weigh in (and thrilled to hear you enjoyed an All Star FI reunion). Of course, what I relish most is the societal freakiness of the folks who haunt these corners, so let’s not go too legit all at once . I’ll join you for that beer, and persuade my wife to sit with us sipping her affordable South American malbec.
@Stasher, sometimes the world works in mysterious ways, like when a dirtbag at heart (me) marries a slightly higher low-maintenance super cool chick. I think hiking is a pretty normal path to male friendships, and I could understand how a woman might feel less comfortable going to a place even slightly off the grid with a new acquaintance, but I completely agree that too much risk aversion leads you to lose out on some of life’s great connections.
Appreciate the feedback and suggestions, and relieved that I’m not the first to deal with this situation.